Columnist and trained counsellor Fiona Caine offers her perspective on a daughter who wants to take a family holiday but is worried about leaving her 82-year-old mother alone.
“My 82-year-old mother is no longer very mobile and is also becoming a bit vague, so I need to help her out quite a lot.
I don’t begrudge her the time because she’s been a wonderful mum who is always prepared to help me and anyone else who needs it.
Looking after her, my family and holding down a job does become a bit of a strain at times though. We haven’t been able to take a holiday in ages, as I don’t feel I can leave her.
She says she’ll be fine but she needs someone around a lot, so I don’t think it’s really an option. I suppose I could arrange for her to go into care or something, but I really don’t want to do that.”