New year, new you, right? Most of us set ourselves the same goals each year: to lose weight, to quit smoking, to stop drinking alcohol, to stop spending money and to join the gym. But there are other resolutions we should be making, that will make us feel better about ourselves, not worse. Our mental health is just as important as our physical health and it’s vital that we treat it that way. Metro.co.uk spoke with Jessica Boston, a life coach and cognitive hypnotherapist at Glow Bar London, who has helped us devise a list of mental health New Year’s resolutions we should all be making. 1. Practise patience Jessica says we should give ourselves time to adjust to changes and keep going – so don’t try to change your life all in one day. It starts with just a single step, so don’t be too hard on yourself. And if you slip, don’t punish yourself. Just try again tomorrow. 2. Learn Lessons Jessica says: ‘When life gets tough instead of asking “why is this happening to me?” Say to yourself “what is this teaching me?”’ 3. Find the joy in the small things When it comes to social media, we’re constantly seeing other people’s big achievements, which can make us feel bad about ourselves. But celebrate the small things, tiny accomplishments that are significant to your day. If you’re struggling with depression and you managed to get out of bed, wash your hair or do the washing up, congratulate yourself. That’s a huge step. If you remembered to eat breakfast or managed to go out for a small walk, feel good about that. Don’t compare yourself to others.